Lesson. There are lessons in almost everything you do. It’s up to you whether you choose to take something from them.
I would like to say that I had some groundbreaking news or a grand accomplishment to share. However, truthfully, my days have largely consisted of application forms, awful daytime television, more Candy Crush levels than I would ever care to admit, numerous hot beverages and the occasional adult nap (like a regular nap, just more adult). So, as you can likely imagine, my unemployed state has provided me with copious amounts of time alone with my thoughts. Dangerous, I know.
In light of my last post, Departing the Big Smoke, here you have the follow up, the product of my most recent honest reflections- the main lessons I learned from moving out and moving on (I do realise I’m totally milking this whole moving thing and I’m not even the slightest bit sorry). There were many, many more but fortunately for you, dear reader, I condensed them into 5:
It is true that living somewhere else does give you different experiences and new perspectives. However, this does not mean you are necessarily smarter, superior, cooler or more mature than those who have decided to stay put. Some want to travel the world, sail the seas and soak up different cultures. Others want to feel settled, secure and surrounded by what they know and who they know. The truth is, there is nothing wrong with either option. Great things can be found in both. Just because someone makes a decision that you personally do not understand doesn’t make it a wrong decision. Plus, side note, what a snooze-fest it would be if we were all to make the same decisions anyway.
- You could cartwheel in as Miss Independent herself and take everything in your stride but you will, at some point, miss home or at least aspects of it. Even if just for fleeting moments. So don’t be quick to cut your ties and/or neglect your relationships just because you’re in a new place doing new things with new people. You will miss people and in turn they will miss you… probably… hopefully. (RamblingsofasmalltownScot cannot guarantee this) *awkward silence*
- It’s a pretty general, sweeping statement but you simply can’t run away from things. Any issue or baggage you have (regardless of how minor) is coming with you wherever you’re going whether you like it or not. Apologies to get all ‘Liam Neeson’ on you, but whatever “it” is, “it” will come and “it” will find you (“it”probably won’t kill you though). You see, leaving and moving elsewhere doesn’t miraculously and automatically eradicate your problem(s). Often, it can actually create some more. So, fix and patch up where you can and at least attempt to make your peace with that which you can’t.
- You need to be assertive. No one really knows what you want and how much you want it except you and no one will be as sorry as you if you don’t get it. So work hard for the things that really matter to you and remember, if you never ask, the answer will always be a big, fat, gigantic, resounding, slap-you-in-the-face NO.
Finally (well done for making it this far), you don’t always need to have everything and everyone figured out all the time. Honestly. You don’t always need a plan B as sometimes you won’t even have a plan A. Take some time out. Have a cup of tea and a digestive (other biscuit options are avaliable). Walk. Rant. Read. Relax. Re-evaluate. Repeat if necessary.
“There is no trouble so great or grave that cannot be much diminished by a nice cup of tea”~ Bernard-Paul Heroux